feat: support including files in node_modules

[Jinjiang]

Description

User can't customize exclude option to support hmr for files inside node_modules.

Additional context

#304

With this PR, the reproduction can be fixed by Vite config:

plugins: [react({
  include: [/\.[tj]sx?$/, /\.[mc]js$/],
  exclude: [/\/node_modules\/(?!foo\/)/],
})],

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• Bug fix
• New Feature
• Documentation update
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[ArnaudBarre]

This is good because it doesn't increase the number options, but this makes it a breaking change for people using the exclude option.

I've discussed with other team members and for now the consensus is to not add more option just this uncommon use case, so I'll wait for next major of the plugin, which will probably be at the same moment as Vite 6 end of May but could be sooner if there is a need like supporting React 19 or a new meta framework