VReplication: Support excluding lagging tablets and use this in vstream manager

[mattlord]

Description

This PR adds support in the TabletPicker for excluding tablets that have MySQL replication lag higher than a given maximum value. It then uses this new support in the VTGate vstream manager to exclude candidates that would immediately fail when we start the health check stream from the selected tablet.

Related Issue(s)

• Fixes: Feature Request: VStream should pick tablets with less than discovery low lag threshold #17833

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[twthorn]

lgtm! Thank you for the super quick fix

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Codecov Report

All modified and coverable lines are covered by tests ✅

Project coverage is 67.43%. Comparing base (2118bc3) to head (26055a5).
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