Improve Espressif make and cmake for ESP8266 and ESP32 series

[gojimmypi]

Description

This PR updates the make and cmake build process for the Espressif examples.

• VisualGDB is detected in make. Fixed builds for ESP8266 for VisualGDB.
• Improved exclusion of select obj files during make builds for ESP8266.
• Proper exclusion of driver and timer components in ESP8266 build.
• Proper inclusion of pthreads component for ESP8266 CMake build.
• Added support for template example make builds for ESP8266.
• Improved watchdog disable on some ESP-IDF versions for RISC-V chipsets.
• Fixed watchdog disable macro for ESP8266 on SDK 3.5.
• Improved PROTOCOL_EXAMPLES_DIR detection.
• Expanded Apple Home kit support in Kconfig.
• Enable AES and AES-CTR for all examples. Warn if AES explicitly disabled.
• General cleanup, spelling, example consistency.
• Add missing ESP8266 VisualGDB wolfssl server example project file.
• Improved ets_sys path / version detection. Thanks @5p4k see Fix ESP ROM header path for IDF >= 5.4 #8380
• Update .gitignore to exclude more Visual Studio / VisualGDB / log files.
• Remove references to Espressif aes.h.

Tested on ESP8266 v3.5 SDK, ESP-IDF v4.4.3 (on supported chips), ESP-IDF v5.2, and latest upstream master (v5.5)

edit: also fixes #8266

Fixes zd#

Testing

Tested on my Espressif jig

Checklist

• added tests
• updated/added doxygen
• updated appropriate READMEs
• Updated manual and documentation